collective prayers

these are the collective prayers from the 11th Step Meeting on Christmas Eve…

Serenity Prayer “God, grant me the serenity-to accept the things I can not change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference. Amen.”

3rd Step Prayer “God, I offer myself to Thee-to build with me-and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them-may bear witness-to those I would help-of Thy power, Thy love, and Thy way of life. May I do Thy will always. Amen.”

7th Step Prayer “My Creator, I am now willing-that You should have all of me, good or bad. I pray that You now remove from me-every single defect of character-which stands in the way of my usefulness-to You and my fellows. Grant me the strength, as I go out from here, to do Your bidding. Amen.”

11th Step Prayer “Lord, make me a channel of Thy peace-that where there is hatred, I may bring love-that where there is wrong, I may bring the spirit of forgiveness-that where there is discord, I may bring harmony-that where there is error, I may bring truth-that where there is doubt, I may bring faith-that where there is despair, I may bring hope-that where there are shadows, I may bring light-that where there is sadness, I may bring joy. Lord, grant that I may seek rather to comfort than to be comforted-to understand, than to be understood-to love, than to be loved. For it is by self-forgetting that one finds. It is by forgiving that one is forgiven. It is by dying that one awakens to Eternal Life. Amen.”

Lord’s Prayer “Our Father-who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses. As we forgive those who trespass against us, and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For Thine is the kingdom, the power, and the glory forever. Amen.”

Working STEP 1 – practically working through the program

STEP 1………………………………………………………………………….HOW IT WORKSheet

We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and compulsive behaviors, that our lives had become unmanageable.

“For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out.” (Romans 7:18)

Directions-  ask the Lord to prepare your heart and mind to read and answer the following questions:

  • Read each question through at least twice, resting and pondering on each question and allowing yourself time to respond as you are ready.
  • Give time to meditate on each answer, or journal your answers, and consider how the questions and your responses impact your feelings, your mood, your thoughts and your beliefs. The key is to move through the questions in a deeply intentional way rather than blindly follow instructions or rush through the process. You will benefit from being as honest and thorough as possible.
  • Read and PRAY through the Principle One Prayer.
  • When you are ready, share your answers with an accountability partner or sponsor, and pray together. This sharing is critical – this is how we begin to heal READ James 5:16                                    —————————————————————————————————-
  1. What areas of your life do you really have any power and control over?
  2. What areas of your life are you realizing are out of control? Areas that make you feel powerless?
  3. Can you pinpoint one time period in your life when your life began to feel unmanageable? If so, describe that period of time and what was happening.
  4. Is there one incident or insight that stands out to you that made you realize that your life was unmanageable? If so, describe it in detail.
  5. What does it feel like when your areas of your life are unmanageable?
  6. How have you tried to control these areas in the past? How well have your efforts worked?
  7. What areas are you ready to admit that you cannot control and that your life is unmanageable?
  8. Are you ready to admit your need for God in these areas of your life? Are you willing to pray the Principle One Prayer?

Principle One Prayer

Dear God, Your Word tells me that I can’t heal my hurts, hang-ups and

habits by just saying that they are not there. Help me! Parts of my life, or all

of my life are out of control. I now know that I cannot “fix” myself. It seems

the harder that I try to do the right thing the more I struggle. Lord, I want to

step out of my denial into the truth. I pray for You to show me the way. In

Your Son’s name I pray, Amen

How to Get the Most Out of Your Group

How to Get the Most Out of Your Group

Become active. The magic of recovery happens when you actively participate and share at meetings. Recovery doesn’t happen when you just sit passively and listen to other people. You recover when you’re honest – nakedly honest, and share what’s going on inside.

Remember, open share meetings are where you get to talk about your recovery and what’s going on inside. But don’t worry. You don’t have to say anything if you don’t want to. You can pass. And it’s normal in the beginning to go a few times and just observe the process.

Be committed. Attend regularly. Some people attend for a few months, others go indefinitely. There is no one approach for everyone. The main reason to continue to go is to remind yourself of where you’ve been and how quickly you can get back there if you start using again. You also go to meetings to help others and to give back.

Use the help that other people offer you. 12 step groups are a generous and giving environment. People will offer to help you in many ways. They’ll offer to meet you for coffee, talk about your problems, or give you their phone number in case you want talk any time day or night. They’ve been through it before, and they know that recovery is hard work. In the beginning you may be overwhelmed by their generosity. But it is sincere.

Your tendency will be to not accept their help. You’ll think that you don’t want to be a bother, or that your problems aren’t that important. But they’re offering to help you because they want to help, and because they know that by helping you they’re also helping themselves. When they listen to your stories, they’re reminded of where they’ve been and what they need to do to remain clean and sober.

12 step groups are not like the rest of the world. When someone says “give me a call” in the outside world, maybe they mean it, maybe they don’t. In 12 step groups they mean it because they’ve been there. Therefore take advantage of the help they’re offering.

Get a sponsor and do step work. A sponsor is your own personal coach or teacher to help you through recovery. There are three levels of support in 12 step groups.

The first level is people who are general supports. They will offer to go out for coffee, give you a lift to a meeting, or give you their phone number. You can’t have enough friends like that.

The next level of support is an accountability partner. They’re someone who you would like to spend time with talking about recovery. They can be a sounding board. They can help you understand the format of meetings. They can call you and motivate you to go to meetings. They can also act as an early warning system to help you recognize if you’re in denial, or if you’re in the early stages of emotional relapse. You can have more than one accountability partner.

The final level of support is a sponsor. Once you’ve been in recovery for a while and you’ve checked out some of the meetings you’ll want to find a regular sponsor. They are a teacher to help you learn the 12 steps. The next two sections deal with finding a sponsor and doing step work.

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How it Works

How it Works

MAKE A DECISION By attending a meeting, you can decide if have a hurt, habit or hang-up you would like to work on. This is something that only you can determine. As you listen to others share openly and honestly of their struggles and triumphs, you may find that you have had similar experiences. You can overcome some of your denial about addictions, compulsions or other problems impacting your serenity.  You will see that everyone sins, everyone has been hurt, everyone deals with relational challenges and everyone falls short of the Glory of God (Romans 3:23).  Good people, with good jobs, good families, and a sense of humor, can have hurts, habits and hang-ups. You may know that intellectually, but you need to believe it. Everybody likes to think that they’re special. But this is one of those times when it’s comforting to know that you’re not alone.

JOIN A COMMUNITY When you attend meetings, you meet people who are going through the same thing. God designed us to heal in community, “therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed…” (James 5:16, NIV) –  we were not meant to become isolated in our hurts, habits and hang-ups. Celebrate Recovery meetings are safe, welcoming communities of people just like you. 

EMBRACE HOPE By attending meetings, you come to believe that recovery is possible. You see that others have found victory over their struggles and you develop confidence that you too can change your life. The people who recovered are just like you…they just followed the few simple principles of CR. If you follow those principles and work the steps, you too can find hope and freedom from your hurts, habits and hang-ups.

ENJOY ACCEPTANCE When you attend meetings, you won’t be judged. Most of us have difficulty sharing our emotions, partly because we’re afraid nobody will understand us, and partly because we’re afraid of being criticized. The people at CR won’t judge you because we’ve been there. We are a group of people that simply choose to be real and transparent about our lives and find freedom in doing so. We believe we are “only as sick as our secrets”… at CR, those secrets lose their power over us as we share openly within a safe community of our peers.

SEEK ACCOUNTABILITY By attending meetings, we are asking others to hold us accountable. We share our hurts, habits and hang-ups with others and when we find victory, we celebrate those wins together. But even more importantly, when we fall, those same people are there to lift us up, speak truth into our lives and love us despite our struggles. We do not go it alone. CR is a community of accountability and compassion.

  2. The Big Book of AA